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What to do to heal from a breakup…

September 25,2017/By: Erin Mixon

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Are you having a hard time letting go of anger and trying to figure out how to heal from a break-up?

Do you find it difficult to find peace and let go of  emotional baggage from your past relationship?

Have you gotten stuck in a place of bitterness and feeling victimized by the events that took place during this time?

Well take heart.

This blog post is all about what to do to heal from a breakup by taking personal accountability

In my last post, I explored and owned up to the part I played in the dissolution of my last relationship.   As I stated previously, initially I would have vehemently argued against anyone that stated that I could have possibly played any role in the unraveling of the relationship.

But over time…with growth and the in-depth process of working on myself…I began to see how flawed that perspective was.

Ultimately, coming to terms with this truth has been a great healing to my spirit.   In addition, it has freed me from the emotional clutter that would have clogged up the drain of my spirit and kept me stuck in the past (ultimately disqualifying me from the true love I am now more qualified to receive).

Knowing for certain how important it is to be clear about the part one has played in the crumbling of a past relationship, I encourage you to do your work, also

Even if it seems that there is absolutely no way possible that you were a contributing factor, I encourage you to dig deeper.   In owning your part, you free yourself from the old debris and open the doorway to usher in the new and the better.

Tips and Tools

1.Commit to Letting Go of Anger and Resentment

This is a very important part of the self-inventory process.  In order to begin the process of owning your part, it is important to try and view things from a standpoint of peace and love.   Time often has a way of helping to quell those bitter and enraged feelings.

In addition to the blessing of time (which can often bring fresh perspective), I recommend prayer, meditation, journaling exercises, and if needed, therapy.

2.Be an Objective Party to Heal From a Breakup

The more love and peace you can bring to the situation, the more honest of an assessment of what really occurred in the relationship you will be able to make.   Pretend you are an objective third party observer to the goings on of the relationship.

Being as objective as possible, list some positive and negative things that this person might say regarding both sides of the relationship.  Honesty is key.



A silhouette of a man and a woman not facing each other trying to figure out what to do to heal from a breakup.
In the process of figuring out what to do to heal from a break up, it is important to take self accountability.

3.Get Feedback from Friends and Loved Ones

Oftentimes the people closest to us can see things about our relationship that we are not able, or simply, not willing, to see.

What are some of the things that you often heard loved ones say regarding the relationship?   What is some of the advice you were given?   For instance, if your mother would often say that you were “selfish” when dealing with your mate (even if it didn’t reign true at the time), search your heart (being as objective as possible) to see if there could possibly be a tinge of truth somewhere in the statement.

If so, what else could be true?

4.Put Yourself in the Other Person’s Shoes

Even though you may not believe you did anything wrong in the relationship, there are a few questions you should ask  in the self-analysis process:

–How do you think he/she felt in the relationship?

–Was I always kind?  If not, how did this affect my partner?

–What were some of the complaints he/she would often express?

Now, at the time, I know you felt these complaints had no validity whatsoever.  It’s always a good idea to take what someone else says about us with a grain of salt.   Still, honestly search your heart to see if at least some of these complaints could contain a ring of truth.

At the end of the day, you will be sooo enriched by this process…

Not only will your next relationship be enhanced by  this new found perspective that you are not perfect, or without fault, but you as an individual will grow as well…

And as you set out on this journey of letting go of emotional baggage…you will fill the burden of the hurts of the past lift off of you…enabling you to now fly free…and ultimately soar to new heights.

And when you gain the maturity to finally begin letting go of the anger, and you’re able to own up to your part, then you will also come to a place of self love and advancement that will allow you to say, “It’s ok.  I forgive myself.”

So, I hope it is clear how to heal from a break-up using self accountability….


Comment below and let me know how you plan on taking self-inventory and self-analysis to help you heal after a breakup…



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